Anticipate Reactions

From the Older Driver

Older drivers may express strong emotions when someone talks to them about their driving.

According to our survey:

• Nearly 1/4 of older adults reported feeling sad or depressed as a result of the conversation.
• Less than 10% reported responding with anger.

Older adults in poor health are more likely to have negative reactions. They may agree with the assessment of their driving ability but feel depressed at the thought of relinquishing driving privileges.

Negative reactions are often more about the message than the messenger. Older adults understand the implications of driving cessation:

• Fewer trips outside the home.
• Increased and permanent dependency on others for transportation.
• Becoming a burden to others.
• Fewer social opportunities.

From Family Members

Families also experience strong emotions. Sometimes family members become angry and frustrated, while others feel guilty for depriving their loved one of the freedom of driving.

Remember:

• A calm response will ensure a productive discussion and defuse negative emotions about the topic.
• Do not postpone the conversation because of fear or guilt.
• Be prepared to have several conversations to achieve your goal.
• It is more important to avoid accidents or death than to avoid unpleasant topics.