Conversation
Openers
According to our survey, many older adults think that family members should talk with them when potential problems arise. The following occurrences provide opportunities to talk about driving skills:
- Health changes.
- Self-regulation of driving.
- Car accidents.
- Near misses.
Here are suggestions for starting frank discussions without sensationalizing difficult circumstances:
"I'm glad that you've cut down on night driving. I would
never want you to drive when you're not comfortable or feel that
it's too risky."
When adults modify their driving in small ways without guidance
from others, families should praise self-regulation as a positive
step and not discourage the driver's actions. For example, don't
dismiss the older adult as a worrier and discourage the driver
who is limiting night driving by leaving a family gathering before
dark. Be supportive and express your willingness to support their
transportation needs.
"Have you asked your doctor about the effects of your new
medication on your driving?"
Many medications have sedative effects that can prevent a person
from processing information quickly. About 75% of older adults
think that a significant change in their health is a legitimate
reason to have a discussion about driving.
"That was a close call yesterday. I worry about your safety
on the road."
According to the survey:
- 50% of older adults said that having a serious accident is an opportunity to start a conversation.
- 33% said a minor accident or narrowly avoiding an accident should trigger a conversation.
In situations where the older driver was not at fault, families might want to discuss the driver's diminishing ability to drive defensively. In all cases, these discussions are more productive if they are not held at the accident scene.
"I'm worried about your getting lost."
Almost 70% of older adults say that getting lost while driving
could be cause for conversation. Getting lost in a familiar place
may suggest potentially serious cognitive health issues that could
affect driving skills. This may also be a good time to get a doctor
involved in the discussion.
