The Hartford - Family Conversations with Older Drivers

Start Early

Ideally, the first conversations about safe driving should occur long before driving becomes a problem. Early, occasional and candid conversations establish a pattern of open dialogue and allow time for the older adult to consider his or her driving skills and make appropriate modifications.

Early, occasional and candid conversations establish a pattern of open dialogue and can reinforce driving safety issues without the strain of asking
someone to change his or her driving behaviors. Here are some conversation openers:

“Health and safety first.”
When driving is placed within the larger context of other safety concerns, it may take the personal edge off the conversation.

“Driving isn’t what it used to be.”
Family members of any age can find common ground by talking about stressful road conditions. Restricting driving in order to compensate for worsening driving conditions makes sense for all drivers.

“Did you hear about the car accident in the news today?”
Use news reports to inform – not scare – older persons. Headline news about accidents that involve older and younger drivers can provide an opportunity to explore your family member’s attitudes about unfit drivers and the question of who can help them decide when to relinquish the keys.

“How did Granddad stop driving?”
This opener may provide an opportunity to reveal personal feelings about driving and family intervention.