Okay, you’ve done all of the above, but a gossip is still in your midst wasting time, spreading negativity, and souring morale. It’s time then to quietly set up a one-on-one with the gossiper and discuss their behavior.
It’s worth noting: If you’re wary of a one-on-one and think maybe the first step is to put out a general email or announcement reminding the entire team about gossip, don’t. You may unnecessarily send your employees into an existential crisis about whether they’re complicit.
Once you do have the gossip in front of you, it’s important to be stern, but not aggressive. Let the employee know you’re aware of the gossip, and that it’s not acceptable. But also use the opportunity to stress why it’s not acceptable, and what the consequences of gossip can do to other employees and the company as a whole.
Gossip is so habitual, the employee may not be aware. Making them aware can help link consequences with their actions, which can potentially go a long way towards breaking their bad behavior.
Just because you’re pulling a gossip into your office, remember not to treat them like they’re beyond hope. All employee issues — like
a worker calling in sick too often — can be potentially resolved if you help empower change.
For example, if the gossiping employee tends to badmouth the performance of co-workers, it may be because they’re upset over someone not pulling their weight. “A lot of times, gossipers gossip because they don’t directly approach the individual who’s bothering them,” says Hakim. A good manager can help a gossip overcome that, by turning that impulse to gossip into a productive talk between co-workers. “We can solve so many issues if we just directly and tactfully address an issue with the person with whom we’re upset instead of talking about it to the other people,” says Hakim.
That’s why being supportive and listening during your talk is key. It allows you to identify the source of gossip, come up with a plan to help the employee improve and extinguish their gossiping tendencies.